Is very easy to let go of God when things are going our way…. yes, we have difficulties as stepmoms and we probably are constantly praying because of that. But for our husband or biomom things are not as difficult (every single moment of the day) and sometimes when things go well is easy for either of them to depart from God. This is assuming that they have the same convictions that we do. If biomom doesn’t have or even think she needs God is even more likely that life will get difficult fast.
The bottom line is that if we don’t think we need God everyday when the bad times come we will start drowning. Sometimes people seem to be very connected to God because they show on social media a Bible verse every day or because they go to church regularly. But we all know that intimacy with God comes from seeking him everyday and constantly reminding ourselves that we can’t do it alone.
If you don’t have teenagers at home you probably won’t understand until later… and if you do, you already know. With teenagers life gets difficult fast and constantly. Their lives are in constant change and as they fight for their own independence things can get messy very fast.
Biomom will probably be more popular on this stage because teenagers tend to side with the parent that seems weaker. This is a fact of their development. Because you are married to “the law” or the “man of the house”… they will tend to rebel towards your husband because he “is authority” and side with the biomom (specially if she is single) because she is nurturing and understanding and therefore…lenient.
This could be very annoying… ooooh so annoying!! specially if biomom is insecure. If she feels threatened by you (and most likely she does….) she might give too much freedom to your teenagers because she wants to be the cool parent who “gets it”. And we know that teenagers don’t necessarily know how to handle lots of freedom. To add to this, you might have shared custody and your husband has no saying on what goes on at biomom’s house (and you probably won’t even find out the actual truth of what she allows them to do and with whom). She might not tell you when she catches them on behaviors of risk and you might find out about it when things are too difficult to revert.
When everything comes crashing down. When you find yourself in the midst of the worst situation you can imagine… when the “parenting philosophy” has epically and clearly failed. That is the moment when we need God the most…and sadly is the moment when we actually realize what everyone is made of.
When things are falling apart you truly realize who has the wisdom of Heaven and who is confident in God that things will work out. There are many questions and desperate thoughts and little answers and certainties…. That is the moment where God will use whoever is standing on Him to bring peace and healing to the situations.
“When the storm is over, there’s nothing left of the wicked;
good people, firm on their rock foundation, aren’t even fazed.”
If you are standing firmly on God you will endure the storms that come your way. Do everything you have to do… Drive them around to their activities, go to their games, plan their birthday parties, care for them when they are sick, kiss them good nights, hug them when they are having a bad day. Hug them on the good days… Do everything you need to do to BE THERE. Don’t pay attention to everything their mom isn’t doing… Don’t pay attention to the lies. At the end of the storm, the strong will still be standing. If you stand on your rock Jesus Christ, YOU WILL BE STILL STANDING!
SHARE: DO YOU HAVE TEENAGERS AT HOME? HOW IS THEIR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR HUSBAND AND BIOMOM? DO THEY SEEM TO HAVE MORE FREEDOM AT MOM’S HOUSE? ARE YOU ABLE TO TALK ABOUT THIS WITH YOUR HUSBAND?