My journey as a stepmom started when I was 24 years old. Fresh out of psychology graduate school, with a very strong family oriented mindset and what I like to believe as “common sense” I walked in head first thinking I was equipped to handle having a blended family. Ha!!! yeah right…. I can’t help but laugh at myself when I think of that…. The truth of the matter is that nothing can prepare you for this. There are no number of psychology degrees (two master’s so far…), “common sense”, or even a very good support group with steady christian family values can give you all the tools you need to be a good stepmom, and even a good blended family wife.
My short journey has stretched me more than I could ever imagine…there are levels of growth (and pain) that I never thought could exist within the context of every day family living.
I met my stepdaughter when she was 12 years old and my stepson when he was just turning 9. Now I have two teenagers at home (and my inner self that sometimes feels like one) with all of the fun and colorful mood swings! yeay! I don’t have children of my own yet and I’m still under 30 years old, so I am young as you can probably imagine (yes….late 20’s is still young!).
The most important lesson I have learned is that in order to accomplish my goals as a wife and a stepmom (and live a rather “sane” psychological and emotional life) is to solely depend on Jesus and the power of the Holy Spirit.
Being a stepmom is hard. Excuse me, I meant… very hard. I am not saying this to victimize myself or any other stepmom out there…is just to state the facts. It’s a complex reality and it can sometimes be very lonely. Through this blog I will share some of the precious Bible verses that I find daily on my morning meditations. I will most likely share my interpretation of it related to our role as stepmoms and as wives. Through this experience I have found a new and deeper dimension of God’s character that I never thought could exist. I hope you can find peace of mind and blessings through it just as I have. Blessings!